Destiny and Fate in couple therapy
Afterword to: Elena Caramazza, The Absolute Shadow.
Leggi tutto »Elena Caramazza’s dense and inspiring text stimulated our reflections on all the clinical situations in which there seems to be no possibility of change. In couple therapy, when the negative destiny complex of which Elena Caramazza speaks oppresses one or both partners, it can act in the unconscious area shared by the couple, combining a sense of destiny as inevitable with the fantasy of being able to avoid it, in and through the relationship. In this case, the unconscious area shared by the couple constitutes a field of collusion that immobilizes; the couple tends to maintain sufficient stability, but neglects to elaborate the Shadow aspects of each partner. In analytical psychology this area is defined as the Shadow of the couple, to whose construction aspects of the personal and familial Shadow of each partner, with the respective archetypal nuclei, dynamically contribute. When the search for meaning appears to be blocked by an inevitable and negative destiny factor, another possibility may arise through the interaction between analyst and patient. When a couple seeks to modify negative destiny trajectories defined by illnesses and unconscious modalities that cross several generations, the “mind of another” seems to make reference to the third area of unconscious communication that is created between the partners and the analyst, that is to the “multifaceted subtle body” (De Benedittis et al. 2019) that comes into being between the participants in the session.